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Reality and Fantasy

Some people believe that fantasy is preferable to reality.

These people live in a world of make believe in order to escape the harsh realities of life.

They live in a fantasy that tries to exclude pain, that tries to exclude disappointment, conflict, and fear.

Other people will only deal in reality. To them, life is harsh and we must deal with it; we must confront it. Life, they reason, is painful and full of disappointments and so we might as well get used to it and face up to this fact. Most of us swing back and forth between the two belief systems.

After having lived with grim reality, we flee to a period of fantasy where the pain can be escaped from for a while. But living in fantasy for any length of time leaves us with an emptiness and we venture out into reality once more. Somehow, neither reality nor fantasy seen like an appealing solution, and this is true. For truly, neither fantasy nor reality is real. Both are an illusion. Reality and fantasy are opposite sides of the same coin. In truth, it is not reality nor fantasy we seek, but what is real. Realness is what is loving, honest, healthy, caring, and true. It is real when we speak of our pain and in the midst of it know that even this can be released. Pain does not make something real, in fact, it is the very opposite.

If we are experiencing pain - then something is not real. What is real recognizes that there is a conflict, but does not stay there, for what is real acknowledges there is another way. Realness observes the judgments all around and asks for what is loving. What is real is the peace of God. What is real are all the gifts that God brings to us. Fantasy would exclude what is painful. Realness would invite God into the center of the pain for its release and healing.

Reality would say: "We have to learn how to live with pain." Realness would say: "Let us feel this and know there is a way through and beyond any pain." There is a deep desire in all of us for what is real. We do not wish to deny pain and conflict, neither do we wish to live there. Realness would bring us in all honesty to what is most loving, to what is most healing. Reality says: "This can never be changed" Fantasy says: "I can pretend I don't see this."

Realness says: "Let us walk together through what seems fearful in order to find the Light, in order to find God's Solution."

For your consideration, -- The Guides

Copyright 2002 Vitagenics Maynard and Leanne Dalderis

By Leanne Dalderis